Answer:
No, it is not normal for a partner to use physical violence, regardless of what they claim. Love should never involve fear, pain, or intimidation. This is a common tactic in abusive relationships called “love-bombing” or justification of abuse,” where the abuser tries to excuse their behavior as a sign of passion or care.
Signs this is abuse, not love:
- Your partner hurts you intentionally and expects you to accept it.
- They apologize but continue the behavior repeatedly.
- You feel scared, anxious, or unsafe around them.
- Violence is used to control, dominate, or punish.
What you can do:
- Acknowledge that it’s abuse: Understand that their actions are harmful, not a sign of love.
- Prioritize your safety: Avoid situations where violence could escalate.
- Seek support: Reach out to domestic violence helplines, friends, or family you trust.
- Consider counselling: Therapy can help you process trauma, regain confidence, and plan next steps.
- Develop a safety plan: Know where to go, what to pack, and how to leave safely if necessary.
Remember: Physical violence is never love. True love respects boundaries, safety, and emotional well-being.
